3. Fear of commitment if I never really try, then I will never rally fail. Avoiding a decision may feel safe, but many people don’t understand that not deciding is a decision, and it is a poor one.
4. Fear of disappointing your parents. It would break my dad’s heart if I worked for another company instead of the family business. Your parents want you to be happy, and if you are working to achieve that, almost all parents will be happy with your decision. Beyond that, you have to decide whether being authentic is important to you. If it is, you will have to confront this fear.
5. Fear of disappointing others. If I don’t go with all my friends to an internship in Chicago. I might lose their friendship. This fear is similar to the last one, but it plays out with friends, mentors, colleagues, and bosses. It is a real and understandable fear, but you need to look at it more deeply to determine what pleasing others costs you to question the assumption that you know what they want. Remember that you are responsible for you own happiness.
McCann’s final advice is the each individual should make her or his own decisions and not let emotional resistance influence those decisions. How each person handles fears such as those just described is often influenced by the sense of unity within her or his family