You Don't Speak At All
On the flip side, maybe you shut down during an argument or when you're mad and you just don't say anything at all. This is not going to help you at all. Your partner isn't a mind-reader and so if you don't tell him what's wrong, he's not going to know that something is wrong or he's not going to know how to fix it. Speak your mind and don't be afraid to get a little confrontational