.At times you may find it difficult to decide exactly what you want out of a relationship, or you may find out what you would really have enjoyed only after the affair is over.
For this reason, it is a good idea to prolong your courtship in order to find out what each partner wants and expects before making a commitment.
You appreciate a lover who doesn't discuss your personal life with others; in fact, you are quite attracted to the idea of carrying on an affair in secret.