In this day and age where people seek maximum amusement they either want to pursue the things they enjoy without other people spoiling their fun, or they want to hang around impossibly-amusing people where they are guaranteed amusement, or they want someone to pay the bill at a restaurant to make that time away from their regular pursuits worth it. To the original poster, it’s nothing against you — people are just selfish with their time; and unless you have this exuberant personality (possibly drug-induced or caffeinated personality is what it takes to really pep up a party unfortunately), being one who is so charming and stimulating or will provide free food/drinks and entertainment to people at a venue of some sort other than your home, people nowadays in this isolated stay-at-home age of self-service amusement cannot be bothered — and plus work makes people so busy that they have no energy to expend on others anymore. I hate to be cynical but the 1950s and 1960s and 1970s 1980s are gone people want Internet/books not social get-togethers or gatherings unless there’s something to gain — actually wishing people would gravitate to you the way you are would be selfish thinking — for that to even happen you have to sacrifice and constantly feel obligated to others — money is a vacuum for people (social status) that’s where a lot of “gravity” comes from, not being super nice and just such a pure person — people also like money and drama that is an intoxicating mixture that excites for some reason, gives people strong feelings — I take no part in any of this BS and enjoy my time alone — people are pests