I am glad that you find my experience useful.
I have just looked into the Oriental Hotel Apprenticeship and my guess that it is a absolute top level opportunity for the right individual.
Starting on this career path is very much like joining the army - tough but you learn life lessons and skills.
Every place that I have ever worked has had the same rules regarding attendance and punctuality, you show up on time, every time, calling in sick is not an option if you want to continue.
I am sure that The Oriental is a great place to start for a career in S E Asia but I am sure the same opportunities are available in Europe.
If i can be of any help after moving back to Europe let me know, at least having a contact there might be a relief to Mark (or you and your wife).