I explored some of these questions in a previous book,Stressed Family, Strong Family. Before you read the excerpt from that book below, mentalize about your hope, faith, and love supplies. If you feel okay about those three, you might get some further insight from the following discussion of resilience. (You might want to go back to the "Hope Checkup" and run that.)
If you find yourself coming up short on hope, faith, or love, you can explore ways of increasing those feelings, as suggested in Chapter 1.
The following section from Stressed Family, Strong Familycomes from the beginning, where I want to set the stage for parents assessing their kids' strengths and coping abilities. I've added some wording suitable for adults to a list originally designed for youths.