When I think back over the crazies decisions I made in my life, they were nearly all rooted in fear or in being defensive. For example, fearing that all of those “why black women are alone” articles are true, trying to keep a man who didn’t want to be kept happens out of a fear of being alone, going through a boyfriend’s email account out of fear of being caught off guard by news of a cheating mate, or refusing to completely share oneself out of fear of being vulnerable and ultimately getting hurt.
The remedy? Try to view things in black and white and be as rational as possible. So, for example, if you “feel some type of way” because the person you are “feeling” isn’t being as responsive as you know he/she should, then cut out the grey area and keep it moving. No need to get your emotions out of control. Put on your rational hat and remember that someone who is interested will definitely pursue you. Sometimes, it really is that easy.