I'm sure it was like that for her. Most females were treated like that when they were born - due to the one child policy. Most Chinese families wanted males, not females. Males carried on the family name and looked after their parents as they got older.
I'm sure a lot was exaggerated as she is recalling moments from her childhood. She would remember quite a lot of it but there would still be the memories that she elaborated on but she honestly would believe that is how it was.
Her mother died when she was born, of course there was going to be hatred from the father and the others!!