How long it will take you to get through your divorce and what your life will look like during and afterwards will be determined by what you do now and how you do it.
When you fight:
• Both sides get drained emotionally and financially
• Your case can drag on and on and on
• By definition, someone has to win and someone has to lose
• Lawyers in the mix add to miscommunication and increase the complexity of the situation
• Kids can get emotionally scarred
• Chances for effective co-parenting are seriously damaged
• Issues are not addressed so agreements are not kept
• Your anger and bitterness becomes entrenched