If you keep in mind one key goal - make the other person feel good, the
conversation itself will become secondary. Approach new people with this goal
and you will look for ways to talk to them about what interests them, you will keep
the tone positive and you will put their needs before your own.
You can make someone feel good by giving them your complete attention, by
being a great listener and by being genuinely interested in their opinions. In How
to Communicate with Unstoppable Confidence in 20 Days or Less I covered how
to do this in lesson 20.
Another way to make someone feel good is to make sure you feel great. When
you feel positive, energetic and confident your vitality will rub off on other people.
This is another reason to master anchoring and advanced mental rehearsal,
which we discussed earlier in step 1.
View conversations with new people as an opportunity to serve, and to give and
it becomes a lot easier to make conversation. Ask yourself: