I'm a child of divorce. My mom divorved my father when I was about 10 years old I guess. I live with my mom now and I haven't met my father for 4 years now.
They had a very messy divorce. My brother and I had to go to the courts regularly, and those times were pretty troubling for me and brother.
This is exactly the reason why my mom did not want to divorce my father. But my brother and I told her that this is something she had to do for herself. We were pretty small so we might not have been very convincing. But I guess our point did strike home.
After 7 years, my mom has had her ups and downs but she's damn successful now. She's set in her life and she's happy.
In my opinion, a divorce is the way to go if things are getting out of hand. Better to get separated than killing each other, physically or mentally.