I believe in being close to your children. Part of that closeness will come from setting family rules and consequences for not following the rules. The rules and consequences need to be consistent and fair. You are not doing children any favors by letting them get away with inappropriate behavior. Kids want to know their boundaries even if they do not like them. You are showing your love more by being authoritative and loving then carefree. I have been a single mother, it is a tough thing to do.