When you focus on the differences between your positions rather than the commonality of your interests, little progress can be made. There is nothing necessarily wrong with having a going-in negotiating position, and we can’t really avoid having pre-existing assumptions and desires. But when we don’t get what we want and frustration ensues, what can we do? The key is to understand five areas that can both help move a negotiation forward and in doing so usually advance us to where we want to be: