Clearing a Space and other Finding Distance techniques are often used to help a client find a comfortable relationship with overwhelming feelings. However, I have found that Finding Distance techniques are actually not the best way to accomplish this purpose. In this article we will explore Inner Relationship techniques, which include all the advantages of Finding Distance techniques and none of the disadvantages. The reason for this is that “relationship” includes “distance” and adds “connection.”
Aspects of this presentation include: the four main disadvantages of Finding Distance techniques; the Inner Relationship techniques; implications for clients in Close Process (overwhelmed) and Distant Process (out of touch); implications for working with survivors of abuse, trauma, etc.; implications for the relationship between the therapist and the client.