Identify the reasons why you feel lonely. In order to make changes that will truly help you, you will need to take some time to figure out why you are feeling lonely.[2] For example, say you assume that you are lonely because you don’t have enough friends and you go out and make more friends. You may still feel lonely after making new friends if your loneliness is the result of having too many friends and a lack of meaningful connections. Consider some of the following questions to help you determine why you are feeling lonely:
When do you feel the most lonely?
Do certain people make you feel more lonely when you are around them?
How long have you been feeling this way?
What does feeling lonely make you want to do?