In terms of human evolution, nonattachment is an advanced teaching. I’m
suggesting that we need to be able to form satisfying human attachments before
genuine nonattachment is possible. Otherwise, someone suffering from insecure
attachment is likely to confuse nonattachment with avoidant attachment
behavior. For avoidant types, attachment is actually threatening and scary. So
healing for avoidant types would involve becoming willing and able to feel their
need for human connectedness, instead of spiritually bypassing it. Once that
happens, then nonattachment starts to make more sense.