Pim,
Need you to understand something about work.
It is important for visa's we show we have money coming in. My money from my house may be enough, but it would be good to show you too have money coming in from work or something.
Now, I have told you I do not want you doing what job you are doing now. Maybe we can change this, when we know we are financially secure.
I want a new family with you Pim - hopefuly a baby and I do not think the job you do now is suitable
So, do it now until we are settled.