5. Hand over control to a trusted person, someone committed to helping them have the kind of death they desire.
The whole issue of deathbed conversations—asking a person what he needs or wants is very important. What does the dying person want? How can they get that? Is it reasonable? Sometimes it’s not reasonable: A friend’s dying mother wanted help in ending her own life; well, that wasn’t going to happen. Sometimes you can have the conversation without acting on it, and any conflicts or issues can be addressed.