In the case of the man at the beginning of this article, if he continues blaming himself for all that happened he will easily lose the belief in his capacity to do something to change his difficult situation (****). He could have apologized to his wife. He could have made more efforts for their relationship to become better. But he didn’t. Instead he thought of doing something to help him release the inner tension and started drinking. At last, he got back home drunk, met his wife right at the door and started another fight.