My dear I will come back this weekend.
You asked me that if we fail to become like what the other people expect you to become is severely wrong or not. Let me tell you something my dear child, the answer is based on the purpose of the person who wants you to become. If that person truly has a good intention for you to prosper then my answer is you are wrong. Why? Because in this cruel world there are very few people who would care about someone else other than him or herself. If you have found someone who really care about your future and your well being then you are very lucky. But the point is someone intention will not able to make you become better or worse if you do not do anything to make it happen.
All you need to do is very easy and simple, just think about the suggestion that he or she has given to you. If it is good why not do it? IF it is bad stay away from the person who gave you the advice as far as you can and it is totally for your self.
For me and you my dear all I need is to see and make you to have a better life. Life that is better than you are having now. However, you have to aware that, nothing is free in this world. What you have to sacrifice? Just look at those who are trying to quit drug addiction, in a very early stage they have to suffer a lot from the effect of loosing drug substances in their blood stream and this is the reason why most of the drug users failed to stop using the drug. But if they have a strong determination to say good bye to the drug and they are strong enough to withstand all the pain and agony during the therapy they will eventually have a chance to start their new life, without drug again. So during this changing time you need to be strong and stand firm to your determination and it won't be long you will see the happiness.