As parents, you will also experience strain between the connecting, and the letting go. One part of you may want your student to solve their own problems (and trust that they can), while another part of you may wish to stay in control, to feel needed, and to protect them from the pains of growing up - the pains we faced, and we know they will face. There is no perfect answer here, and no answer protects us from the fears and pain we also experience as we see our children grow, make interesting choices, suffer the pain of lost relationships, etc.