Your mother probably finds it hard not to transfer her role as your mother directly to your baby. After all, she took care of you, and you turned out okay (something she's probably reminding you of regularly). So first take a deep breath and thank her for her help. Tell her that since she did do such a great job with you, you've learned to be a great mother, too. Let her know you need her to trust your abilities so you can trust yourself as a mother.
At the same time, establish some ground rules and let your mother know how you would like things to be done. To begin with, you can list, prioritise, and discuss your requirements with her. Ensure that your mother is not only aware of your expectations, but has also agreed to the requirements of the arrangement.
While she may find it difficult to relinquish her role as mother, it may be equally hard for you to relinquish your role as daughter. It's time to assert yourself, but in a loving and supportive manner. Ensure that you have an agreed-upon and active mechanism of sharing information about your child.
Spend time with her sharing information on the current trends on parenting, nutrition and health. Not only will this give you time together -- it will help open more lines of communication. This will also make her aware of the changing times and needs.
Try to meet each other halfway. Following a common parenting style will be the best solution for your baby. Let your mother know that your baby will benefit greatly from the ample experience of her grandmother's love and commitment. However, it is also as important your baby gets accustomed to your parenting style and care. Be actively involved in your child's upbringing. This will leave little room for discontent on both sides. Follow up with a quick and casual chat -- everyday. It will update you about your child's daily activities and will also provide that comforting reassurance to your mother that her 'little girl' has finally grown up and is a 'responsible mum' now!
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