The pain of a death in the family, a breakup or job loss can be enough to require a bit of counseling. "We tend to think these feelings are going to go away on their own," says Alvord, adding that this isn't always the case. Grief from a loss can impair daily functioning and even cause you to withdraw from friends. If you find you aren't engaging in your life or those around you have noticed that you're pulling away, you may want to speak to someone to unpack how the event still affects you. On the other hand, some people respond to loss with a more manic reaction -- hyper-engagement with friends and acquaintances or an inability to sleep. These are also signs that it is time for professional help.