In my marriage, for example, we decided to forgo certain pleasures and instead invest our savings in a new business that my wife wanted to develop. The business was a success, lifting our shared ‘boat.’ And it wasn’t just that I benefited from the cash my wife’s business earned. Eventually, there was a role for me in the business, and some of the most creative work I’ve ever done happened because of the decision we made.
Think of marriage as a joint venture, and you will avoid hurting each other in many ways, while also discovering many possibilities