Abortion in the family
In contrast to teenage motherhood, abortion was
not generally discussed in families and most
parents were not aware of anyone who had had
an abortion. Support thought to be required
from parents under these conditions was
assumed to be more emotional than practical, it
often included ‘being there’ for the daughter
and attending the clinic if necessary, helping her
through a potentially traumatic experience.
Although most of the parents stated that
they would offer support to their daughters or
sons if an abortion was their decision, the young
women choosing this option did not feel that
such support was available, perhaps because it
was something that wasn’t discussed. Most of
the young women choosing abortion had told
only a small group of close family and friends,
sometimes not even telling their parents or
boyfriends and feeling forced to devise
elaborate cover-up stories.
I told my parents, because I was due to start
college on the day I had to go to hospital, I told
them I was staying a night at friends the previous
night because I knew I could come out. I had to
stay in overnight and knew I could come out the
next day. So that was the cover-up story, I was at
a friend’s, had to go to college the next day and
then I’d come home as though I’d been home
from college. (Sam)
But where they did have someone to talk to
this could prove decisive in their thinking.
I’d been stopping at me boyfriend’s house and a
girl called Jacky who I know were there, and
she’d already got a little girl, and she helped me,
talked through it, and she’s had an abortion as
well after she’d had her little girl she’s got, so ...
I’d been talking to her ... (Annabelle)
Yeah, ‘cos I went to see a woman who lives
across road from me stepmum, and she were
telling me she were pregnant when she were 15
and she had an abortion, she said that it hurt her,
but it were for best reasons ... (Lauren)
Abortion in the family
In contrast to teenage motherhood, abortion was
not generally discussed in families and most
parents were not aware of anyone who had had
an abortion. Support thought to be required
from parents under these conditions was
assumed to be more emotional than practical, it
often included ‘being there’ for the daughter
and attending the clinic if necessary, helping her
through a potentially traumatic experience.
Although most of the parents stated that
they would offer support to their daughters or
sons if an abortion was their decision, the young
women choosing this option did not feel that
such support was available, perhaps because it
was something that wasn’t discussed. Most of
the young women choosing abortion had told
only a small group of close family and friends,
sometimes not even telling their parents or
boyfriends and feeling forced to devise
elaborate cover-up stories.
I told my parents, because I was due to start
college on the day I had to go to hospital, I told
them I was staying a night at friends the previous
night because I knew I could come out. I had to
stay in overnight and knew I could come out the
next day. So that was the cover-up story, I was at
a friend’s, had to go to college the next day and
then I’d come home as though I’d been home
from college. (Sam)
But where they did have someone to talk to
this could prove decisive in their thinking.
I’d been stopping at me boyfriend’s house and a
girl called Jacky who I know were there, and
she’d already got a little girl, and she helped me,
talked through it, and she’s had an abortion as
well after she’d had her little girl she’s got, so ...
I’d been talking to her ... (Annabelle)
Yeah, ‘cos I went to see a woman who lives
across road from me stepmum, and she were
telling me she were pregnant when she were 15
and she had an abortion, she said that it hurt her,
but it were for best reasons ... (Lauren)
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