I think there's nothing wrong about the approach of the first guy. If you really want to help a person then it is easy to lend a hand. A boy wearing a public school uniform asked me if I can give him some cash for his pocket money at school because his parents were not able to give him. I give him twenty pesos which came from my pocket money for school because I am a college student. Then when I rode a jeepney home, a street greasy boy asked me to give him some cash so that he can buy a food just the same with the school boy, I give him twenty pesos. My point is it is not on the approach or look of a person. It depends on YOU. Whatever their reason is or if they're just deceiving me, it is on them at least I lend a helping hand to those boys. I've done my part to help them. :)