The alocentric nature of Latino culture also affects disclosure of HIV-positive status. In the qualitative interviews with 21 HIV-positive Latino gay men, some men reported that a major obstacle to disclosing both their gay identity and their seropositive status was the negative consequences for their mothers (Zea, 2000). A statement we repeatedly heard was, “I thought my mother would die if she found out”. Concern about the feelings of a mother prompted another man to disclose. After attending the funeral of a friend who had died of AIDS and who had never told his parents that he was HIV-positive, the participant recalled thinking “I can’t do this to my mother, for her to find out when I die:::. So I called my mother and told her. I was not afraid of her rejection, but of making her suffer.” Thus, concern for others, avoidance of conflict with others, and the maintenance of harmonious interdependence are motives that may compel some men to disclose or conceal parts of their identity.