Been to Thailand for a month now, got a girlfriend who indeed followed the pattern above, but I just could not fall in love with a girl who constantly says “up to you” when I ask for her preference about what to do, eat, etc. — she even talked about how she would change her life (job and residence) so she could fit into how I wanted her in my life (i.e. I don’t want her around all the time, but I do like having her in my bed).
I dumped her due to not loving her (and I felt bad for leading her on).
Now I have a female thai friend and I see exactly the same pattern; she cooks for me, buys things for me, drives me around on her motorcycle, clearly wants to be my girlfriend and when I treat her bad (like this morning when I did not show up at her place) she takes it with a smile “hi hi, you sound tired, I understand” and I said I wouldn’t come by for lunch: “you busy working? good”.
It might make thai girls “better” (for your definition of the word), but it makes their boyfriends worse by not challenging them and allowing them to be disrespectful to women.
I also feel that when everything is “up to you”, the girl is really putting on a mask and never letting me know her true feelings; she just want to please me because she know being with a falang makes her life so much better (no 6 days workweek living in a crappy house/apartment and barely getting by).