Different Attachment Styles
You and your girlfriend might have different styles of relating to other people. On PsychologyToday.com, psychologist Leslie Becker-Phelps points out that differing attachment styles can cause problems for couples. You might have very different ideas about how often to talk or text. The person with a higher need for attachment might think the other doesn’t care, while the one with a less attached style sees her partner as clingy.
Making Compromises
The best way to resolve any relationship issue is through honest and loving communication. Sit down with your girlfriend and talk about how you both see the relationship. Ask her how often she thinks you should talk, and calmly tell her what you think. If you two are far apart on the issue, find ways to compromise. For example, you might promise to send a check-in text every day if she agrees not to call you right before bed