From time to time,sit close to the one you love, hold his or her hand,and ask, "Darling,do I understand you enough? Or am I making you suffer? Please tell me so that I can learn to love you properly. I don't want to make you suffer, and if I do so because of my ignorance, please tell me so that I can love you better, so that you can be happy." If you say this in a voice that communicates your real openness to understand, the other person may cry. That is a good sign,because it means the door of understanding is opening and everything will be possible again.
Maybe a father does not have time or it not brave enough to ask his son such a question. Then the love between them will not be as full as it could be. We need courage to ask these questions, but if we don't ask, the more we love,the more we may destroy the people we are trying to love. True love needs understanding. With understanding,the one we love will certainly flower.