Dear dear Puie
After I sent my last mail, I talk with Alf in a long time.
Alf was so so sad. I will try to help you and Alf. I have already talked with Alf, and will talk more with him.
But let me explain in short how I see it.
You want Alf and Alf want you more than ever. I think you and Alf really deserve eachother.
I understand that you are so shy dear Puie. But Alf want most of all to see you!!
Therefore he wanted to see you in October. YOUR ANSWER WAS NO.
Then Alf wanted to see you in December. YOUR ANSWER WAS NO.
Then Alf wanted to see you at NEW YEARS EVE this year. YOUR ANSWER WAS NO.
Then Alf want to see you in January/February. And you have not answered YES yet. Maybe the answer will be NO this time also?!
Dear Puie, how had YOU reacted if you ask Alf to see him, and HE told YOU NO three or four times to YOU.
You see, Alf wanted to come to you on New Years Eve because it was so low prices on Sunday evening our time. Alf tried to contact you several times on Sunday. But he could not reach you. Then Alf was so sad naturally. Why? Because on Monday all the places on the airplane was sold out.
Then it was new places to Thailand in January/February. Alf ask you if he could see you then. But instead of a HAPPY YES, you should think about it, and answer Alf after you come home from Korea.
BUT when you come back, and when you probably say YES to Alf to visit you, maybe ALL THE PLACES ARE SOLD OUT AGAIN?
Do you understand Alf better?
I can tell you that Anna have sent mail to me, and ask how she can find the church where Alf live. She has already been on her way to Alf, but she didn't find the church. I will NOT answer her. And I have NOT told Alf about this. You see, other girls are knocking on Alf's door to his heart, but because YOU own his heart, Alf will not open THIS door! Dear Puie, Please take care of Alf's heart before someone else knock so hard, and Alf open the door to his heart a little bit only!
I can also tell you that Phetlada have mailed me also, several times, because she want Alf's mailaddress. But I told her polite NO. But I send her information that everything is OK with Alf. I send some pictures also!
On the New Year Eve I have invited Alf to our home. But it's a long way for him to drive.
OK, dear Puie, I hope you understand me the CORRECT way!
As I see it, Alf love you so so much. And when you "turned him down" with NO, several times, he has been so so sad and unhappy. Do you know why? Because he just love you so so much!!
I don't want to criticize you at all. I want to explain for you how I see it. In our culture, it's normal for a man or woman to FIND A NEW, if she/he is turned down more than one time.
I know that you love Alf so much. And you have NOT turned Alf down. But I think Alf feel it like that anyway. Dear Puie, Alf has been turned down so many times in his life. Therefore his heart cries so much. He remembered all other times in his life he has been turned down when he is sad and unhappy.
Again, this is not a criticism of you. I try to support you only.
If you don't meet Alf soon, maybe another girl cross Alf's road one day. And you know, Alf is the most easy man to talk with. And he care so much for other people. He helps other people so much. He is true and absolutely honest. And of course absolutely faithful too. Alf is nearly every women's dream of a MAN!
Write when you can. Don't stress. I hope Alf and you soon will see eachother!!!
With love
From Tony and Hilde