Although men do not tend to use communication to achieve closeness they have their own way of bonding In one study 75 percent of the men surveyed said that their most meaningful experiences with friends came not through talking but through shared activites In a related study researchers found that fathers tend to show affection to sons by helping them with tasks and challenges Javier morales's experiences certainly support this idea says morales My dad and I are really close but l wouldn't say we talk we talk very much We spend a lot of time together doing thing we spent all of last Saturday repairing my car and this weekend we're going hiking together my dad and I have a deep bond just because we 'are not talking doesn't mean we're not sharing important time together