ENFJs know and appreciate people, they tune in and ‘get’ other people. Like most NFs, (and ‘Feelers’ in general), they may at times abrogate their own needs in favour of the needs of others so keen are they to take care of those around them. They have thin psychological boundaries, and are at risk of being hurt or by those who are less sensitive, often taking on more of the burdens of others than they should.
Being close to an ENFJ is to be cared for, looked after and someone who is really insightful and tunes in to how you are really feeling. The problem often occurs is that the ENFJ cares with such intensity that the significant other may take them for granted, perhaps believing that the ENFJ is just so self-assured that they need very little. Indeed they do not need much, just to be appreciated and for the other person to be seen to be appreciating. The ENFJ works hard at relationships and takes great pleasure in seeing those they care about being happy.
The ENFJ is empathetic and insightful, seeing and making connections between people. Action-oriented, and people-centred they make sure that everything is planned, scheduled, organised and people are happy. ENFJs are emotional but tend to focus on other people, tuning in and bringing incredible empathy and organisational ability to bear. This means they can get ‘emotioned out’ themselves as they give so much.
Whilst the ENFJ will encourage trust and openness they may not be so open about how they are feeling, indeed they may not really think about that so focused are they on caring for, and organising others. ENFJs tune into others. The twin attributes of insightful caring and organisational ability will mean the ENFJ will see all the interconnections between people, pick up on the cues and work tirelessly to help solve people issues. The ENFJ is an enthusiastic champion of people who wants to make sure the needs of the people are and taken care of. They are excellent networkers who tune into people and popular among their colleagues. Articulate and confident the ENFJ will be persuasive and tenacious; the one voted the leader or committee chairperson. Everyone knows they can depend on the ENFJ who will fight the cause of the people. The ENFJ may bite off more that they can chew, as their first priority is to say ‘yes’ and take the pain away for others. During such times they may feel weighed down, overwhelmed and underappreciated.