But I want to be clear that I’m not trying to pathologize anyone. All of this is just
something to understand with kindness and compassion. It’s one of the ways we
try to cope with the wound of the heart. Not needing anyone allows one to
survive and manage in an emotional desert. But later on, in adulthood, the
avoidant attachment type has a hard time developing deep ties with others, and
this can lead to a deep feeling of isolation and alienation, which is a very painful
state.