Honey, ok. I'm sorry for being so difficult about this. You are right. Marriage is a very open and honest relationship. Yet, the details are not needed. We are even commanded not to speak of those things which were done in secret (before we were saved). I was a sinner living in your sin before I was saved. But when the Lord Jesus saved me, He made me a new person. Those old things are passed away and buried (baptism pictures it). I have been raised to a new life. My body now belongs to the Lord Jesus and He and I have been keeping it for the one that I will be joined to for the rest of my life to be spent in His service and for His glory. That's you darling.