I appreciate your telling me your feelings from the heart and I believe you are a sincere person. I also am glad that you take seriously your obligation to help your parents and I hope that your brother also contributes to them. If we grow to love each other and have a future together, I have no problem with your continuing to support your family if they need your assistance but I do not want to see you taken advantage of if your brother is able to help also but doe not. I had a problem with my only brother (two years older than me) over the care of our mother and because of it we no longer speak to each other or have any contact at all with each other since my mother died in 2009. Problems can arise between brothers and sisters over the care their parents need later in life and I hope that you and your brother both take and equal share in that responsibility. My brother was more interested in our mother's money and getting his hand on it as soon as possible rather than and serious interest in her welfare and we constantly fought over his conduct. That went on after our father passed away suddenly in 1998 and we had to put mother in a home for the very old for the last eleven years of her life.