I realized as the dawn of 2014 set in, that I had spent so many hours and energy looking back and trying to understand things that I will never understand. I was not accepting the way things are and was being sad over something that never really was, only my vision of how I wanted it to be. Yep. Guilty as charged. All the things I have coached my clients on over the years came back to me in the form of a man, someone I gave my heart to years before. I always said my ex husband shattered my dreams, but this person shattered my heart, and there he stood as I walked off the tennis courts on the morning of the first day of the new year