We're getting married in Thailand or in Germany, or have a solid relationship. But we will live in two places. (With a respectful view of the development of your children). My mental conception: we live together in Thailand and Germany. By the time when the children are grown and on their own.
It is meant: I'm 2-3 months in Thailand and then one month in Germany, then back at you, my love. I know that it is not easy but it will carry by our love. Be sure, trust me.