they can offered, accepted or taken in, refused or rejected, and directly requested, such as "will you tell me that you appreciate that I cooked dinner for you?" another way st are exchanged is to self-st or even brag, such as "i did best I could in putting my kids through college". ta group members are introduced to how they live the "st economy" and can then examine whether they have incorporated any of these five self-sabotaging rules about stroking