Visiting friends Do not drop in unannounced to visit your Dutch friends. Make an appointment to visit first. Do not be offended if your Dutch friend gets out her agenda and says that she would love to meet you for lunch, in three weeks time. Many Dutch people live very scheduled lives and plan well ahead; this lack of spontaneity is not usually an attempt to put you off. A Dutch person, who is invited for dinner at someone’s house, will usually bring some flowers or chocolates.