When being interviewed about Eat Pray Love, Gilbert talks about The "quest physics’ – a pursuit of your truth typified by a willingness to leave ‘things’ behind, to be open to learning, and to accept everyone who enters your life as a teacher.
She is not suggesting that we all leave our husbands and go travelling. Instead we all need to find an inner stillness.
She is also quick to discuss the difference between selfishness and "self actualisation" - a decision to do the best for yourself to become a better person. (A good area for discussion in your book club)