2. They don't dwell on problems or hold grudges.
Bradberry says your emotional state is determined by where you focus your attention. "When you fixate on the problems that you're facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress, which hinders performance. When you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy that produces positive emotions and improves performance."
People with high emotional intelligence focus on solutions, he says. And they rarely hold a grudge.
Why?
When you relive an event or conversation that angered you, "you [send] your body into fight-or-flight mode," Bradberry says. "When a threat is imminent, this reaction is essential to your survival, but when a threat is ancient history, holding onto that stress wreaks havoc on your body and can have devastating health consequences over time."
Emotionally intelligent people know that stress and negativity are detrimental to their success — so they avoid holding grudges at all costs, he says.
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