Dear Desperate, Thank you very much for your letter. I am really sorry to hear that things are bad at home. However, it you take my advice seriously, the situation will get along better. Under the circumstances I think we should look at your relationship with your parents. In your letter you don’t mention whether the problem is mainly with your mom, or your dad, or both. If you get along better with one parent, try talking to him/her first. You say in your letter that you can’t please them, but have you asked them what they expect from you? You must remember that, above all, your parents love you. When they ask you where you’re going, and who you’re going out with, they are doing this because they care about you. I know it’s tough; you feel like an adult, but to them you’re still their little girl! So, don’t feel that they’re not giving your freedom – they’re just showing that they love you! As for the phone calls, why don’t you try to come to an agreement with your parents? You could try to explain that it make your life really difficult if you can’t answer the phone, and perhaps you could agree on a time when you can use the phone. As for your boyfriend, I hate to say this, but he couldn’t have been very understanding if he stopped seeing you just because you can’t speak to him on the phone. To sum up, I think you all agree that things you can’t go on like this. Tyr to talk to your parents more. If you know what they want, and they know what you want, you should all get along a lot better. Best wishes, Aunt Andres Reading Link: Ask Aunt Andres “How Desperate R U?”