Especially if we tend to be shy or doubt that other will be interested in us and what we have done or want to do. Barbara says it is important to remember the advice of the wife of a former U.S. senator,who overcame her feelings of inadequacy by telling her feeling of inadequacy by telling herself,"I am the way I am; I look the way I look; I am my age." Remember that you can't expect other to accept you if you don't accept yourself. Barbara also emphasizes the importance of "radiating friendliness.