alleged lovers know about each other, and what has been going on. If one insists that a choice is made… that can lead to a speedy resolution, one way or another. If all three parties agree to carry on as before… In that case, we are talking about a situation that I cannot empathize with. I cannot get inside the heads of such people. If they can make that work for them, then good luck to them. I am not going to moralize. To each their own. But I do not understand how that kind of love can work, not indefinitely.