Finally, in the process of socialization we learn to associate violence with the family. Our first experience of force nearly always takes place at home. Most of our parents use physical punishment on occasion-for our own good, of course, and because they love us. The child is told, "This hurts me more than it hurts you.") From it is only a small step to the conclusion that the use of violence is legitimate whenever something is really important. And the things that are most important to us are often family matters. In addition, we learn how to be violent from our families. (the observation and practice, perhaps with siblings, to learn how to beat up another person.) Study after study has shown that the more violence an individual experiences as a child, the more violent he or she will be as a parent. Brutality breeds brutality.