3. The idea: when in emotional distress . It 's easy to sink into the feeling bad happened. Or overwhelmed with sorrow . Rather than pull themselves out of the loop that feeling . Which makes the life of the ballast is to modify the idea. Confidence in the value of its own. And eager to find something good in itself. Because if you do not. No one would give you so when you modify the idea yourself . I know many will be followed.