How to work positively with other types
How the ESTJ can negotiate better with other types
Because feelings are less-developed (and understood), ESTJs need to show spouses more appreciation for what they bring to the negotiations.
Should tell spouse when job is well done rather than correcting them when not well done.
Appreciate self as organized planner and getting step-by-step solutions.
If an ESTJ feels the need to criticize or complain, he/she should do so to a friend or in a journal but not to the negotiating spouse.
ESTJs must understand that until they are completed, negotiations take place in a world of ambiguity and uncertainty and can't be planned and controlled.
The unplanned can be positive.
Should not get depressed if deal is not completed in one sitting. Get some matters settled if possible, but don't expect it all to shake down at once.